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society: oh you have your period? well you have two options.

Sun, 10 Feb 2013 07:09:40 -0500

society: oh you have your period? well you have two options. woman: okay. society: you can use...

Reblog this if you have a disability and you are willing to answer any questions anyone may have about said disability.

Fri, 08 Feb 2013 01:58:18 -0500

Bipolar…..and..GO!!! I will answer to try to end the stigma. I always hear, after I reveal my...

sevenpoints: iidelirium: captainragtag: hey what if someone invented a machine that allowed women...

Fri, 08 Feb 2013 01:56:43 -0500

sevenpoints: iidelirium: captainragtag: hey what if someone invented a machine that allowed women...

I'm gonna say this once

Fri, 08 Feb 2013 01:52:50 -0500

whoredoeuvre: thelittlekneesofbees: lowlyminion: The right to free speech (if you live in a...

Things I Say While Driving

Sun, 03 Feb 2013 21:17:23 -0500

Me: What the fuck are you doing. What. The fuck. Are you doing. Me: NICE BLINKER ASSHOLE. Me: Why...

I love Timothy Olyphant. He was kick ass is Deadwood, now I’m loving his character in...

Fri, 14 Dec 2012 23:39:49 -0500

I love Timothy Olyphant. He was kick ass is Deadwood, now I’m loving his character in...

"You know I don’t celebrate Christmas, or as I like to call it, White Anglo Saxon Privilege Night."

Thu, 13 Dec 2012 21:59:06 -0500

“You know I don’t celebrate Christmas, or as I like to call it, White Anglo Saxon Privilege...

"So here’s the real reason that rape jokes are troubled territory - Because rape victims say..."

Thu, 13 Dec 2012 21:58:30 -0500

“So here’s the real reason that rape jokes are troubled territory - Because rape victims say...

bonerack: princessnecrophilia: weeaboo-chan: vhscars: pro...

Sat, 08 Dec 2012 21:19:28 -0500

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protest-resources:

50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada

Use, redistribute, print.

Click image and magnify for large version.

Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticized fiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.

so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex

it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine

i know my shit okay

im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid

Let me

just

fucking

drop

some fucking

knowledge on you right now.

Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.

So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.

Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.

Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.

Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.

Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

My uke, SuckerPunch (a surprise from mah man), my ironing board,...

Fri, 07 Dec 2012 21:27:37 -0500

My uke, SuckerPunch (a surprise from mah man), my ironing board, and……bad lighting.

Just listened to Hurricane Drunk this morning. No shit.

Wed, 05 Dec 2012 22:03:24 -0500

Just listened to Hurricane Drunk this morning. No shit.

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Sun, 02 Dec 2012 13:08:33 -0500

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Sun, 02 Dec 2012 13:08:15 -0500

chaoticfuckingbeauty:

Sat, 01 Dec 2012 11:18:48 -0500

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Sat, 01 Dec 2012 11:18:17 -0500